OK, I just have to complain a little, which I really shouldn't be doing. Have you ever moved into a ward and not really felt quite right? Not that the church isn't true, just that you don't quite know how you fit into the equation? We've almost been in our ward for 10 months and we've been invited to two people's houses. One is our friends and we've been back and forth, but it wasn't until Brandon was called as the EQP that we got our second invitation and suddenly this guy is Brandon's best friend. That's bugging me! And the fact that nobody had taken the time to get to know us. That's bugging me too. It kind of feels like our student ward in Pullman. Like I don't quite fit. I don't know. It's just been hard for me this weekend. I'd like for someone at church to care about us.
So, I'm going to be the person who cares. Since there doesn't seem to be a family that goes out of their way to welcome new members, or maybe there is but we got overlooked, I'm inviting the new people to our house. Starting this Sunday. Granted there are very few days now that we get to spend together but I know it is important. Especially if I'm feeling kind of lost, that must mean there are others feeling kind of lost as well. Well, not any more, not if I can help it. Even if don't come out of it with any friends, I'm at least going to make sure people feel welcome in the ward. It's such a shame, too, cause I think we have a really great ward.
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Ooh, I am so with you! Nothing miffs me more than that. We actually live in the friendliest ward I've ever seen right now, but I've been in others where I thought if I died no one would notice.:) Here's a good laugh for you. When we were first married, we moved into this ward and every single Sunday for 8 months we were asked if we just moved in! I'm not exaggerating. That's how long it took them to finally get our records and give us callings too. What is WRONG with people!? I feel your pain. Hang in there.
I'm thinking that this is what happens every time you move into a ward, especially one where everyone is settled into their little routine. It took about a year for me to finally feel a little accepted in Adna and that was when I was called to the primary presidency. I was finally able to get to know a few younger moms. Before that I felt like a fly on the wall....
Hang in there...pretty soon you won't be the "newest" ones anymore...you'll be the ones that everyone knows ;-)
Sometimes I think it's hard for people to accept change. Especially in this area because the members are few and far between....so everyone is just used to the same people that have been there for F. O. R. E. V. E. R
Good job! You know, that's exactly the type of thinking I felt and had before you and Pam moved into the ward. I'm kind of feeling the same thing here, too. You'll come out of it with friends...believe me.
Hey I just think that no ward matches up to the "home ward" That you grew up in! In that ward you are a kid and thoes are the good memories that we try make our ward out to be now!! But for some reason it just doesnt seem to happen that way.
I think you have the right attitude. Treat others how you wish you had been treated. And as a side note, I think that lots of people don't mean to ignore new families, they are just in their own routine and don't give it much thought. But as the "new people", that doesn't make you feel any more welcome! If it makes you feel any better, we are not new to the ward, and we have been invited over to someone else's house maybe twice this past year, too! Seriously, I think people are just lazy about getting together sometimes, so keep doing what you're doing and set a new trend!
You know it's funny everybody's perception. You mention Pullman and I always thought you were in the thick of it all. But I totally relate . Sometimes people think that you are in totally involved but the truth is you can go weeks without any contact or the only contact is "business" related. I have also learned that it takes a solid year 12 months before I feel like that if I were gone somebody would notice. I feel your frustration!!
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